The vast majority live being dependent on others and do not even realize it, the normal is that at birth we depend on our parents, but what happens when we grow up and we have to go to school, we are dependent on teachers and professors, once you graduate and get a job what happens? you are dependent on your boss or the company for which you work. We get used to others telling us what to do and how to do it, and as a consequence we develop an ability to blame others for our situation and although perhaps these external dependencies are easy to detect at first sight and reflect upon, there are other types of factors that control our life and therefore control our future and these factors are even more harmful than we think; do not allow your life to be controlled by these five factors, be the protagonist.
What we do on a constant basis is what shapes our life. Our beliefs, what we think and what we feel create our life; feeling good now, makes us create better futures for ourselves; many people spend their lives at the mercy of circumstances, live at the mercy of what happens to them and live at the mercy of other people, do not live in the present because they are trapped in the prison of their past, if you want to live a great life do not allow yourself to be controlled by any of these factors:
- Your past, do not allow your past to control your present and much less your future, whatever happens you must let it go, leave behind the pain of your past so that it does not ruin your future, leave behind the darkness of your past so that it cannot block the light of your bright future. Your past is gone, whatever happened to you, whether it was unfair, cruel, severe; in any case, reliving those events will never do you any good, if someone was wrong and hurt you, the only way you can win is if you let go and move on; if you live in hate they win, if you live in victim’s history they win, if you want to win you must focus on building your future and start right now; release that weight from your back so you can be free, don’t let past events, events that are already gone ruin this moment, your moment, moment that is perfect, moment that is now to enjoy, moment that is ready for you to live fully.
- Judgments and opinions of other people, don’t let other people’s opinions and judgments control the direction of your life, the need to fit in and feel loved can make you travel down roads you don’t want to travel, being someone and acting in a way that only pleases people is a curse that must be avoided at all costs; before you do something ask yourself, am I doing this because I want to or am I doing it because of my fear of being judged by others? You were born unique for a reason, you were born to stand out, to be appreciated and loved for who you really are, do not turn off your light to fit into the boring background of other people’s lives, shine brightly just as you are; those who really love you will see that light and shine with you.
- Limiting beliefs that you project yourself, do not allow your life to be controlled by your own limited beliefs. Now a word of warning with this part: these beliefs may be conscious, but more than likely they are unconscious; they may be unconscious limitations that have been conditioned from an early age and throughout your life; limitations that became imbued in your subconscious as you listened to those around you who never achieved their own dream, notice their limited beliefs and tell them to shut up. There is nothing you cannot do, nothing you cannot have; and as this universe is our witness, there is no one you cannot become. If you firmly believe in yourself, if you believe that everything is possible, everything will be possible. When you change your belief from limited to unlimited, your potential is unlimited; as the saying goes, «when there is no enemy within, the enemy without cannot harm you. When you have nothing on the inside to stop you, there’s nothing on the outside to stop you, your whole life will change the very moment you decide to change your mentality, the moment you decide to see everything as a gift, when you decide to see every circumstance and challenge as a blessing instead of a curse, when you become aware of the fact that everything is as it should be, your life will change for the better.
- Relationships, relationships are a delicate subject, but if you always need someone else to be happy, to feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a breakdown if that person leaves; we are not suggesting avoiding relationships, there is no force on this earth greater than love and connection, we are talking about those relationships that some people cannot live with if they are not with someone, those who will be with almost anyone including all the wrong ones, just to avoid spending a single moment; what we’re saying is develop enough mental strength to get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy, you can be happy being alone, like when you’re happy being in a relationship.
- Money, this is what controls most human beings on the planet, money, money is an idea, that’s all, it’s that simple; if the mental relationship with money is negative, you will never make money, but if the relationship with money is kind you will make money, even though you may lose it in the beginning. We have learned that money is a bad thing and that limits us, so the first rule of making money is to change the way you think. Money doesn’t make you rich, instead it’s the management of it that will make you really rich. If your income is 9000 dollars, but your expenses are 9050 dollars, you are not rich, rich is the one who if he stopped working his assets would continue producing cash flows; we must remember that rich people do not work for money, but they make money work for them. There are two kinds of problems, the first problem is not having enough money and the second problem is having too much; everybody has money problems, problems for different reasons, the difference is in what our relationship with money is and how we handle money; this does not mean that you should not want abundance, it does not mean that money is bad. Do not allow your decisions to be controlled by money, if you choose something only because of the factor of the amount of money involved, you will end up making a wrong decision, but if instead you give your best to others, follow your intuition and truly do what is necessary and right, then money will come and go in much greater amounts. Therefore, challenge yourself to live the life you want to live, free from being controlled by these factors, find your freedom; the mental images of success, health and abundance in general that we create of ourselves and our life in the now, make us enjoy it in the future.